"I think it's not so much resentment Anna as grief. Granted I have never had something work it's way out my uterus but see a lot of women go through a grief process after they've drawn the line at how many babies to have. It's grief that you're not going to carry a baby again and that you won't have those experiences again. It feels a lot like jealousy and/or resentment but grief is often only associated with death so we don't always recognize it."
Everything about this comment resonates, but the part about grief being associated with death and therefor going unrecognized rings especially true.
After all... the death of a dream is something to grieve for. Even if you put it to rest knowingly, agreeably and honestly... still, you grieve.
...and that's what I'm doing.
So, be patient.
sometimes people grieve for a looooooong time. be patient with yourself. it's ok (and when our tweens are slamming doors in our faces, we'll cry together and beg for more babies).
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I am so happy it resonated for you. I generally don't give advice or observations when it comes to the parental realm as I am not a parent but recognizing those feelings as one's I have felt recently as part of grief, well I had to speak out a bit.
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