tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8835422624088578710.post4628512078712335616..comments2023-03-28T08:41:28.952-07:00Comments on The Rocky Holler Picture Show: kids and food and weighticancarryallthebagsandthebabiestoohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02092919063325046800noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8835422624088578710.post-70144393874746855812011-01-15T00:20:56.158-08:002011-01-15T00:20:56.158-08:00it's never too early to educate yourself and y...it's never too early to educate yourself and your girls bc i know media skews the reality of realistic body image. even before i lost weight i was average or a little below and i am below average size for women my age, yet am seen as plus size or bigger or thick, which is fine by me bc i like my body now =)<br /><br />here are a few things from the author: -she answers the question "What size should i be?" with "ME SIZE". -"we don't expect everyone to be the same height, how is it that we expect everyone to have the same body or size" -"when you think 'normal' with body size, think diversity." -"Remember that fashion photographs are technologically enhanced" <br /><br />hmm, when you ask her what she means about being fat, she acts silly? maybe she doesn't know? i would keep trying to find out if she knows what fat means and maybe where she heard it, maybe kids at school are saying it but it isn't hurtful to her but could grow into something, so background info is important. <br /><br />i think saying 'no you're not fat' might send the wrong message if not now, later, like you thought. so i would ask her (to define fat) to give other words to describe herself and see if they are all about her body or if she's like, i'm a good artist, i have pretty eyes. <br /><br />unfortunately bc of the media and the unrealistic standards body image is super important in positive self esteem and it's pretty great that you're concerned already but at the same time actually kinda scary that this is a 5/6 year old little girl. <br /><br />love xoxoxoxoxoxonikkolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208408105819243294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8835422624088578710.post-2657744884676463592011-01-12T04:45:07.817-08:002011-01-12T04:45:07.817-08:00Hey Nikkol, I think that I need to do a lot of rea...Hey Nikkol, I think that I need to do a lot of reading and educating because I am definitely at risk for ruining my daughters life by passing on body image problems... and I NEVER want to do that. When I found out that I was having girls it was one of my first concerns.<br /><br />And I think that you're right about fat/muscle.<br /><br />Also, the other day I picked LIla up to give her a huge huge and she told me not to hurt myself because she's so fat. And I asked her what that meant and she just started acting silly and wouldn't answer me... so I just made sure to tell her how much I love her.<br /><br />Here's something that confuses me: when she says that she's fat, am I supposed to say "no you're not. Don't say that about yourself." Or, by doing that am I telling her that there's something terribly wrong with being fat... so in turn, if people say that to her will she have learned taht it's this awful thing?icancarryallthebagsandthebabiestoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02092919063325046800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8835422624088578710.post-8191579663021232282011-01-11T21:31:02.490-08:002011-01-11T21:31:02.490-08:00hmm, it sounds like you're handling it well. ...hmm, it sounds like you're handling it well. if the doc isn't concerned about weight, i would focus on the fat to muscle ratio which changes in diet and exercise will help. kids don't tend to judge themselves or others like adults do. like when they make comments to adults like 'you have a big bottom' or 'do you have a baby in your belyy' when you don't it's not meant to be hurtful. also some kids and adults are just bigger, i never thought of lila as anything other than a little chubby and not even that much. i'd keep an eye on it, though. i have a great pamphlet 'body size diversity and acceptance' fyinikkolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208408105819243294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8835422624088578710.post-63224388551575636752011-01-11T19:37:05.167-08:002011-01-11T19:37:05.167-08:00Oh wow....this is a tough one and I'm not sure...Oh wow....this is a tough one and I'm not sure what to tell you. I've always had struggles with food on both ends of the spectrum. I do know, though, that with your smarts and compassion, you'll figure out the right thing to do. :)Erika Martin - Stampin' Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15654013636892916062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8835422624088578710.post-45646146168229527892011-01-09T16:31:55.046-08:002011-01-09T16:31:55.046-08:00Have you asked Lila what the word "Fat" ...Have you asked Lila what the word "Fat" means to her?<br /><br />Maybe identifying how she views it will help determine your course of action. <br /><br />I know you don't want to give her a complex. I think it is a good idea to help her recognize different body types and how someone built in one way will carry weight differently. That it's okay that we're all different and that you can still be healthy while carrying a few extra pounds. <br /><br />I wish my parents would have been more helpful when it came to helping me understand good eating habit for life. I was super lean as a young one and in high school. I ate whatever I wanted. Now, especially at 5' 2", I struggle because every 5 lbs looks like the equivalent of 15lbs gained on a taller person. <br /><br />I think you do a great job of dealing with the situation and the girls as they are now, as well as setting them up for success in their future.Talihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17900443713496653111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8835422624088578710.post-69123430478803839612011-01-09T16:31:23.508-08:002011-01-09T16:31:23.508-08:00it's such a touchy subject with me too.
it s...it's such a touchy subject with me too. <br /><br />it sounds like lila has great self-esteem, thank god. i hope she always does!laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07458889389524617312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8835422624088578710.post-26637653022461267712011-01-09T09:07:27.990-08:002011-01-09T09:07:27.990-08:00I asked and she said, "I AM FAT, Silly!!!!!!&...I asked and she said, "I AM FAT, Silly!!!!!!" And then she laughed and laughed and laughed. I asked her not to say that about herself. But i wonder if that's the wrong thing to do. Frankly, she might be a person who is overweight. Some people's body type makes them bigger and I suspect that she's always going to be one of those people. So, some people in life might call her fat. I am confused because where too much fat isn't healthy... some people who are very healthy have too much fat. And is it right to set her up now to know fat as a bad word? I keep hitting a brick wall when I think about it because I've always had such hand-ups on the subject... I just don't want LIla to be like me. And I'm not sure that (though I've worked on this for years) I've unlearned all of my bad behaviors and thoughts.icancarryallthebagsandthebabiestoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02092919063325046800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8835422624088578710.post-31634598456162559322011-01-09T08:22:09.200-08:002011-01-09T08:22:09.200-08:00ugh.
i have no answers. i do think you are takin...ugh. <br /><br />i have no answers. i do think you are taking the right approach though, not equating food with weight. i'd just continue to watch what she eats when you can (when she's not at school). <br /><br />i'd try to talk to her about where the "fat" comments are coming from though. that's concerning. if people at school are saying things, it may not bother her NOW, but may at some point.laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07458889389524617312noreply@blogger.com